I’m an introvert by nature. I need time to myself, and to just be quiet. Some of my happiest times as a kid was sitting in our mango tree, and just reading. Even now, I like going to the library, putting on my headphones and listening to music while I read.
I’m a loner. And I married another loner. We have our computer rooms on opposite sides of the house. So basically, we’re alone together. We both get stressed from being around people at work, so we like to be alone and do our things.
Being alone is so different from being lonely. You can feel lonely in a crowded room. Being alone allows a person to recharge. It gives them time to decompress. An introvert pushed to a breaking point is not a pleasant thing. There really can be too much togetherness.
Sometimes it’s hard finding a balance between the time you need to yourself, and being with another person. It’s hard trying to decipher how much alone time they need without feeling like you’re neglecting them.
Sometimes I just want to sleep alone, because I don’t want to listen to chatting or snoring. My husband has gotten a little bit offended by that a few times. Sometimes I just want to fall asleep first.
I’m not sure what my point is here. I just know I have the windows open, listening to the birds, and listening to my dogs snoring. I have to go to work in a few hours, and deal with people. It’s just nice to have the quiet time to myself.
I feel this so much, I’m introverted too. Before my partner and I moved in together I made it clear that I need time alone to recharge. He’s generally quite respectful, but I’ve found that he can feel I’m being quite cold, and will think I’m mad at him.
Having said this, I do think one of the nicest parts about living with someone is getting to be alone together. That is, being in the same room but still in your own separate worlds.
I’m not sure what my point is, I just really identified with this post π
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I know what you mean. Sometimes it’s great to be together, just doing your own thing.
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