On the Moovz app, I posted that I had a date yesterday. Early this morning, someone asked me how I was getting dates, and she couldn’t. She happens to be a very pretty lesbian in her 20s.
I told her that I replied to a Craigslist ad, and I asked Misty out. I’m not a very bold person, so doing either of things is not typical of me. (Although I had success when I asked my husband out 22 years ago.)
There was something about Misty’s attitude that struck me. I only replied with the intention of finding someone that maybe I could hang out with, and do things that David doesn’t want to do with me. We’ve been out three times.
I probably wouldn’t even call them dates if things hadn’t gotten sexual on the second time we met. But anyway, we had a very short lunch yesterday. If that was a date, it sucked. We were supposed to meet at 11, and she was 15 minutes late. I didn’t know she had to be at work at noon. So, at 11:45, she just left with a, “I gotta bounce”. Ugh.
I don’t have any idea of what’s going on, or what will happen. She sends mixed signals. I know she isn’t interested in a relationship, but she’s the one who made it sexual. Yes, I would like that to continue, but I don’t know if it will. And I don’t even know how to ask if it will.
I am really starting to sympathize with all the singles out there. How do you approach someone? Do you wait til they flirt, or smile at you? Do you take a chance, and text first? Do you try a second time?
I’m beginning to wonder why I’m bothering. But, honestly, she’s been good for me. Just being with her makes me leave my comfort zone. I like her, in spite of being late constantly. And yeah, the possibility of sex is a draw. I’m not going to lie. I didn’t expect that in the beginning, but now, it’s a “who knows?” type of situation.
I’m 48, and I think I’m dating a woman. How bizarre is that? These last two years have proven that I’m not old yet. And I still have more adventures ahead of me. I don’t know how to proceed with her. I’m winging everything. I’m learning as I go. But I have learned that if you don’t ask, the answer is always no.